Violence in a woman in the equine world

I have often wondered how it really happened. How did the stables become the playing fields for our women’s destructive aggression? In my view, stables are unfortunately often places where a woman’s violence has normalized into an accepted part of the operating culture. It’s especially unfortunate - not just for the people, but also for the horses. These sensitive and wise animals have to live in a heavy, stressful emotional atmosphere, and I am quite sure that this will have consequences for the well-being of our horses, as well as the well-being of our people. Emotions and energies stick.

In my own observation, in stables, a woman’s violence often manifests as passive-aggression between women, a form of aggression that is typical of women. For example, as interpersonal games; speaking of evil behind the back, blackmailing, manipulating, exercising power, camping, controlling, even bullying, and outright violent treatment of a horse; physical and mental violence - the subjugation of the horse, the unfair demands of the horse, physical punishment such as jerking, chastening, using harder grips and tools, excessive hardness and pressure. as well as ways to force the horse to move in ways and forms that permanently damage the horse at worst. The saying “when skills run out, violence begins” is infamous. Admittedly, perhaps I would modify it this way “when emotional skills run out, violence begins”.

The connection to our own feelings is unfortunately often broken. We may not even recognize our feelings, our lives are infinitely stressful and stressful - we are in a constant hurry and pressure. There is a wall around our hearts that we have built somewhere in our lives to protect us. Sadly, this wall does not protect, but distances us from our true selves as well as others. Especially about a horse that always strives for heart contact whenever it has the chance.

The unfortunate trend in stables has been the glorification of hardness - social acceptance is enjoyed by those who, by means of violence, put the horse under control. It is weak to be soft and gentle. Personally, I think the greatest courage is to dare to show your sensitivity. As women, we have learned to disguise our feminine power, for it has always been desecrated and depressed — defined as weakness. Just because it has been feared so much. We have imagined that the more masculine we are, the more credible we are. We have become men in the world of men, and by that I mean the old-fashioned rolling, pushing, embarrassing masculine power. 

Gentleness or sensitivity does not mean infinity or that we lack rigidity. It is inner wisdom and strength. We all know how to hide behind a hard shell, it’s not hard. It’s hard to dare to be different, openly sensitive, especially under social pressure. Jung says that a person groups at the expense of his personality. I fully sign the statement. Anyone who dares to disagree, to bring out views that differ from the mainstream, especially in the equine world, is easily in danger of being lynched, ridiculed and socially isolated. It takes great courage on each of us to stand by ourselves and our horse, respecting our own truth, no matter what others say. 

The horse challenges us humans to step into the power of our sensitivity more strongly, because sensitivity is a language that horses speak and understand.